A philosopher and a young man argue over five nights about freedom, other people's approval and what Adler called the separation of tasks.
A demanding, original dialogue whose big idea, other people's opinions are their task, is a deeper cousin of Let Them. Parts of it are contested and it gives few practical steps. Three and a half out of five (draft opinion).
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The Courage to Be Disliked summary, compared to The Let Them Theory: the same core idea about other people's choices, an idea map side by side, where each book is stronger and who should read which.
The Courage to Be Disliked (Japan 2013, English translation 2017) by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, presented by its authors as a distillation of the ideas of Alfred Adler. Its best known idea is the separation of tasks: what other people think of you is their task, not yours.
Below you’ll find a side by side comparison with The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins: the idea map, where each book is stronger, and who should read which.
A demanding, original dialogue whose big idea, other people's opinions are their task, is a deeper cousin of Let Them. Parts of it are contested and it gives few practical steps. Three and a half out of five (draft opinion). Read it if: you like to argue with an idea; you are tired of living for other people's approval; you read the let them theory and wanted the deeper root. Skip it if: you want short practical scripts and steps; you want research you can check line by line.
The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.
It is a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, written by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga as a distillation of the ideas of Alfred Adler. It argues that we act on present goals rather than past causes, and that freedom means not fearing that other people dislike you.
The core is close: what other adults think and do is not yours to control. They differ in roots. Courage presents separation of tasks as Adlerian psychology, while Mel Robbins says Let Them is rooted in Stoicism, Buddhism, radical acceptance and detachment theory. In our count of the ebooks, Adler is never named in The Let Them Theory.
In Hailey's opinion, start with The Courage to Be Disliked if you want to be challenged and want the why, and start with The Let Them Theory if you want short scenes and a phrase to use right away.
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